Self-sabotage.
The act of literally making sure you will fail.
Why do we do it?
There’s really so many reasons, unprocessed trauma is a big one I think.
So how do we handle these acts of self-sabotage?
With patience, with self-love, by surrounding ourselves with people who will both keep our feet on the ground and our heads in the clouds.
By checking in with ourselves and making sure that we aren’t just perpetuating a toxic cycle.
When we decide to change the way things are done, even when it’s a good thing, we are struck with the feeling of buyer’s remorse. (Now stay with me on this).
We begin to question if we’re making the right decision and if we’re really capable of doing these new things. We begin to long for the old even when it’s bad for us, simply because it’s familiar. That’s when we begin the spiral of self-sabotage.
There are two people inside of us at those moments, the old you, the one who doesn’t really want to change (but let me tell you, this version is the one who actually initiated the change as much as they don’t want you to remember that), and the future you, the one who wants to change, heck, the one who can’t exist until you do change. This person you haven’t even met.
So who wins?
That’s up to you and your support network.
Really, just you.
In the end, you’re the one that actually makes the decision right?
It all comes down to what’s stronger inside of you.
The need to change or the desire to remain the same.